You Are A Badass

Becoming a SAHM

When I had my fist 2 children, I was a working mother. The decision to be a stay at home mom (SAHM) was an organic one. However I never intended it to be a permanent position. My husband had just gone active duty and I decided not to return to child care. I wanted to try something new, but I didn’t know what that something was.

Fast forward 14 years and we’ve added another child and a couple of fur babies to our family. And I’m still a SAHM.



Photo taken in 2012


What to do next?

One of the reasons staying at home became an organic decision was because I thought it would be nice to have another child and be able to stay at home to raise it. A year later our 3 child was born completing our family.

But slowly over the next year I found myself becoming more and more unhappy with life. I never got out of the house. I never had other adults to talk to. Most of my friends had jobs and my husband was at work or training all the time. I was lonely and often felt irrelevant. Not to mention that I was so busy taking care of my husband, children, and house, that I wasn’t taking care of myself.

I finally sat down with my husband and told him that I wanted to go back to school. I found a program that looked interesting and started taking the general studies necessary for the program.

Today I have my associates degree in Respiratory Therapy and I’m a certified EKG Technician. Yep I was pretty close to being a serial degree earner.


WVNCC Graduation

Graduating with my Respiratory Therapy Associates Degree

EKG Certification

My EKG Technician Certificate


The Transition

While becoming a SAHM was an organic decision, the decision to go back to work wasn’t. I never seemed to find that thing that just fit.

So I earned my associates in Respiratory Therapy, then used our PCS to California as an excuse to stay home. I mean the kids needed me at home right? And our youngest was no longer in preschool.

I had all my excuses ready and I wasn’t afraid to use them. Our oldest has ADHD, our youngest was diagnosed with autism in the first grade. If I didn’t stay home to handle it all, who would right?

The truth is, I just couldn’t seem to find the thing that fit me and I was scared. So I would earn a degree or certification, or sign up for one MLM or another trying to at least contribute something while making those excuses.

Finally reality hit. I started to realize that it won’t be long before my husband is eligible for retirement and we are sorely unprepared for that day. My dream after he retires is to be able to buy a house and maybe even travel. But you need money, and savings, and clean credit for that.

It was time to put on my big girl panties and get over myself.


The Obsticles

Somewhere in my head I thought finding a job would be easy. I mean I had the certifications and background to easily find work in a hospital right? Plus, the military hospital was always hiring from what I had been told.

I was wrong!

Writing a resume is hard! Especially when you have a 14 year gap in your employment history. My hard earned EKG certification wasn’t accepted by the local hospitals, and the military hospital that “is always hiring” wasn’t.

I was frustrated!

Then as I was doing an online job search for EKG jobs, a miracle happened. A completely unrelated job popped up in my search. It caught my eye enough that even though it wasn’t in my field, I decided to give it a look.

I’m so glad I did.

The job listing was for a behavioral technician position at CARD (Centers for Autism and Related Disorders). It was a part time entry level position, with paid training, paid travel, flexible hours, and room for promotion.

It was perfect!

The part time flexible hours make for a great transition for someone like me who hasn’t worked outside the house in 14 years. The career progression and promotion possibilities let me know that this can be a long term career if I want it.

The biggest plus for me though is the training.

Let me explain. One of the reasons that I was so hesitant to get jobs in my other fields is because even after graduating, I didn’t feel like I knew the job well enough to do them without supervision. In other words, I was scared.

There was no worries with this job though with it’s supervised on the job training along with paid eLearning modules and paid certification. I wasn’t scared, I was excited!

My study buddy

Working on some eLearning with my study buddy!


Plus I already felt like I was ahead of the game, having worked with my son who has autism for the last several years.


Then came the stress

All was going well. I applied for the job and my application was accepted, aced my interview, and was hired the next day. I signed my life away in paperwork, got all vaccinations and TB tests done and nothing.

You read that right. Nothing.

A week went by. My start date came and went and I hadn’t heard back from the person in charge of my packet. I sent emails and waited all for nothing. Finally, I got in touch with someone only to be referred back to the same person who did absolutely nothing again.

I started wondering if they had changed their minds. Nervousness, anger, and frustration was taking over. I kept having to remind myself that I signed their contracts and that they hadn’t contacted me to rescind their offer.

At the time all this was happening, I was reading a book called You Are A Badass by Jenn Sincero. The book itself was goofy to read but the message was one that I needed at the time. It talked about staying positive even when you are presented with obstacles. That what you put out into the universe is what you will receive.


You Are A Badass

You can read my review of You Are A Badass by clicking on this image!


So every day, I would get on my treadmill (my zen place) and I would work it out with myself until I was able to put positive vibes out in the world concerning my new job. My husband was big help in this area. He believed in this opportunity for me and wouldn’t allow me to give up! Yes he’s awesome!

My persistence and positive thinking finally paid off and a month after my original start date, I was able to begin training. I am now a Board Certified Autism Specialist working to become a Registered Behavior Technician with a goal towards becoming a Board Certified Behavior Analyst.

I never asked what caused the delay. It wasn’t important. All that is important now is that I am working and I am constantly improving.


The Whole Point

Transitions are hard. Being a stay at home parent is hard. Finding the right career is hard. Going back to school is hard. Returning back to work after a long absence is hard. But with trial and error, persistence, a whole lot of positive thinking, and a good support system, you can accomplish anything. Never quit looking. The right fit for you in what ever you are looking for might show itself when you least expect it!

If you need help keeping a positive mindset, there are plenty of good books out there like You Are A Badass that can help you with that. You Got This!




You Are A Badass

 Title: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

Author: Jen Sincero

Genre: Self Help/Personal Development/Motivational

Release Date: April 23, 2013


You Are A Badass



Bestselling author, speaker and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero, cuts through the din of the self-help genre with her own verbal meat cleaver in You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. In this refreshingly blunt how-to guide, Sincero, serves up 27 bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, life-changing insights, easy exercises and the occasional swear word. 


Via chapters such as “Your Brain is Your Bitch,” “Fear is for Suckers” and “My Subconscious Made Me Do It,” Sincero takes you on a wild joy ride to your own transformation, helping you create the money, relationships, career and general all around awesomeness you so desire. And should you be one of those people who would rather take a bullet than get busted with a self-help book in your hands, fear not. Sincero, a former skeptic herself, delivers the goods minus the New-Age cheese, giving even the snarkiest of poo-pooers exactly what they need to get out of their ruts and start kicking some ass.

By the end of You Are a Badass, you will understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can’t change, how to change what you don’t love, and how to start living the kind of life you used to be jealous of.


My Review:

Rating: 4 Stars ✰✰✰✰

I’m not exactly sure what I was expecting when I bought You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. I was a new coach, learning how to grow my business and this book kept popping up on my newsfeed. Needles to say the title of the book spoke volumes to my inner badass.

When I first started reading the book, I wasn’t exactly impressed. It was a whole lot of cussing and trying to sound cool. Like a preteen/teenager who is learning how to use her “big girl” words and thinks they make her sound more like an adult when really she just sounds ridiculous. 

As I continued to read the book, it began to sound even more hokey. The author kept talking about connecting to Source Energy and using it to increase your frequency.

I found it all very humorous, but I knew there was a message to find. And find it I did!

The message of the book is that you get from the universe exactly what you put into it. In other words, if you are positive minded, even in times of struggle, things will work themselves out. It also carries the message to love yourself and give yourself grace.

It delivers this message while also allowing that we will all have bad days and moments of weakness. 

By the end of the book I felt that I had learned a very valuable life lesson and I would even go so far as to credit having read this book with helping me stay positive during the stressful process of looking for a new job.

This is a great book for someone who is looking for a more positive outlook on life.


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About Jen Sincero

Jen Sincero

Jen Sincero is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, success coach and motivational cattle prod who’s helped countless people transform their personal and professional lives via her products, speaking engagements, newsletters, seminars and books. Her #1 New York Times bestseller, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life (2013), has sold well over a million copies, is available in twenty-plus languages, and continues to grow in popularity around the globe. Her follow-up, You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth (2017), also a New York Times bestseller, is written with the same inimitable sass, down-to-earth humor and blunt practicality that made You Are a Badass an indomitable bestseller and Jen a celebrated voice in the world of self development. Based on her own transformation, from a frustrated forty year-old living in a converted garage watching tumbleweeds blow through her empty bank account, to a successful business owner traveling the world in style, You Are a Badass at Making Money is a testament to the fact that, in Jen’s words: “If my broke ass can get rich, you can too.”

As a highly sought-after speaker, Jen has shared her signature brand of motivational comedy with everyone from women entrepreneurs to multi national corporations to non-profits to educational institutions to her mom’s book group. In 2011 she sold most of her possessions and spent the next three years running her business from all corners of the globe, writing, speaking, coaching and encouraging people to live lives of unbridled awesomeness.

Jen and her work have appeared in a variety of media outlets including the New York Times, The Dr. Oz Show, Oprah Magazine, Success Magazine/Radio, Money Magazine, Comedy Central, Forbes, Fast Company, Bloomberg, Interview, Cosmo and The Howard Stern Show. Her other books include the semi-autobiographical novel, Don’t Sleep With Your Drummer (2002) and The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks (2005).


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